Does this sound familiar?

  • You're told by doctors: “Just use more lube” or “Just have a glass of wine”

  • You feel alone and no one understands your experience.

  • You want to experience pain-free sex but not sure where to start.

1 in 5 people with vulvas experience pain with sex.

The journey to a proper diagnosis and supportive care for painful sex takes on average 5-6 years.
This is why we created Dilato.

Trusted by over 1000+ people with vaginas:

95% of users have noticed a positive difference within 1 WEEK of joining the program

“I HAD SEX….! I can’t even explain how this feels. Just wanted to share this (HUGE FREAKING MOMENT) really quickly with you [all]. My head is spinning!! Love you all + this community, let’s keep it pushing!! There’s a lot of factors that went into this today but I’m so so grateful. So happy to have the space to share my feelings.”

Kay M

“The biggest change is that downloading the app gave me all the motivation to actually start making progress. I started using dilators and have hardly missed a day since I joined the app. (Already went up one size!!) It feels great to have access to a group of people that are having similar experiences, sharing those experiences, and asking each other questions is very valuable to me. I've also learned a lot about vaginismus itself through the lessons. It made it easier to talk about it with people around me and also helped me understand myself and my body better."”

Taylor McKinsey

“This is definitely something I’m going to continue to utilize! The courses are so precise and well summarized. The images helped a lot! I learned more deeply about the purpose behind diaphragmatic breathing, the anatomy behind the jaw connection + how to help it (I will try the massaging!), and just overall the anatomy of the pelvic floor and how it is supposed to correctly function. ”

Megan Dawson

“I am just writing this email after crying tears of joy. For the first time in over a year, I was able to fully enter the first dilator. I have been stuck with half of the dilator for a very long time. It really held me accountable for showing up and doing the work I was dreading for so long. This is a great tool for accountability. I can already see a big change in my progress. I thank the universe for bumping into you on my TikTok FYP and I would definitely recommend this to anyone who’s struggling with vaginismus/vulvodynia.”

Fantacy Twagira

““It’s been so freeing to be open about my condition with no shame. This group chat has helped me so much already. For the first time in my life, I feel seen in this area and it’s so relieving. I love reading about everyone’s journeys because it gives me hope.” ”

Taylor Ho

“Got another #recoverywin to share tonight! I was finally able to fully insert the smallest dilator for the first time. I can’t express how IMPOSSIBLE this has felt for so long but I know y’all get it. I swear having this community to remind me that I’m not alone & not broken has been the most helpful thing. Love to you all!”

Sarah Wang

“I feel so much more confident in myself with my condition. I use to think that I would struggle for the rest of my life, but now I know with hard work and patience I can achieve my goals in treatment for myself. Azia [co-founder of Dilato] taught me to not only be comfortable with my condition but to be comfortable with my body in general.”

Tess J.

“Azia [co-founder of Dilato] is so kind and helpful....After Azia told me about the position she inserts in, I’ve been able to do the same position and get every dilator in! I understand my body more and I’m not lost or confused anymore!”

Aaliyah

“[Azia's] breathing techniques have helped so much, and learning ways to calm myself before practice. I have been able to get up to dilator size three in my practice and my comfort level has increased. Azia [co-founder of Dilato] has been the best part of the program. Her calming and supportive energy has helped me feel better about myself and my condition. I am very thankful for her and her knowledge”

Jennifer Plunkett

Experts You Can Trust

We Got You. Meet Your Team.

Azia To (she/her)

Pain Reprocessing Therapy Educator

Azia (she/her) is a sex educator and specializes in Pain Reprocessing Therapy. She was diagnosed with vulvodynia and vaginismus back in 2017 and shares her story online to break the stigma of these conditions. She believes pleasure is unhindered by medical conditions or appearances, and advocates for trauma-informed care, education, accessibility and intersectionality in sexual health.

Ellie Hong (she/her)

Pelvic Floor Physiotherapist, Pelvic Pain Coach

Ellie Hong is a pelvic pain coach with over 8 years of pelvic floor therapy in clinical practice. She works closely with women with pelvic issues to educate them on their pelvic floor health and how it connects to their core, breath, pelvis alignment and jaw. She has extensive training in pelvic health and in dealing with complex pain conditions, treating thousands of women with vaginismus/pain with sex, interstitial cystitis/bladder pain syndrome, pregnancy prep/postpartum recovery and endometriosis.

Grecia Alaniz (she/her)

PhD(c), Ortho and Pelvic Floor Physiotherapist

Grecia is a skilled physiotherapist with more than 6 years in clinical practice! She has a particular interest in helping individuals dealing with complex pain conditions. As someone with endometriosis, Grecia recognizes the importance of treating the entire person, not just their symptoms. Through her extensive training in pelvic health, Grecia has extensive expertise in evaluating and treating various urogenital and ano-rectal conditions, including urinary incontinence, vulvodynia, interstitial cystitis/bladder pain syndrome, and lichen sclerosis.

Hear From Ellie (she/her)

Co-Founder of Dilato, Registered Pelvic Floor Physiotherapist and Pelvic Pain Coach

What Does The Program Include

Establish a routine of sexual care that will help ease symptoms and put you in control of your recovery!

  • Live Group Calls With Ellie, Pelvic Pain Coach

    $1000 value

    As you are going through the Dilato Program, you may have questions that come up that require expert-informed answers. Connect and ask questions with Ellie on our live group calls on Dilato! Ellie is a pelvic pain coach with over 8 years of clinical experience working as a pelvic floor physiotherapist. She has worked with thousands of vagina-owners to guide them to pain-free sex.

  • 60+ Video Trainings Developed By Health Experts | Accountability and Progress Tracking Tools

    $500 value

    Get access to over 60 interactive, engaging and guided videos created by pelvic floor physiotherapists, psychotherapists, sex coaches and pelvic-pain focused researchers! We help you break the fear-tension-pain cycle, better navigate pleasure and enjoyment with your partner, learn about both external (e.g. stretches, foam roll, breathing strategies) and internal pelvic floor release techniques (e.g. finger release + dilator use), and how to transition to pain-free penetrative vaginal sex. We also provide worksheets, guided meditations, quizzes and assignments throughout the program to help you apply what you are learning, as well as check-in point questionnaires to track your progress through the program!

  • Interactive Chatrooms With Community Members

    Because you can't put a price on people's experiences -> PRICELESS

    Our community and support network provides a safe space with chat rooms from topics like dilators, treatments, dating, mental health, sex, emotional trauma and more. Ask questions in these monitored discussion boards (nothing is a silly question or TMI either). Meet individuals with similar conditions as you (because recovery is much easier when supported by friends who understand).

Rewrite Your Sex Story: From Pain to Pleasure

Expert-Led. Community-Driven. Pain-Free.

Follow a structured learning program developed by pelvic floor physiotherapists, psychotherapists, and pelvic pain coaches! Our online program guides you towards recovery in less than 4 months.
Join For Expert Help Inside

Course curriculum

    1. A Note From Azia And Ellie, Co-founders Of Dilato

    2. How Assessments Work

    3. Initial Assessment: Let's Track Where You Are Now In Your Journey

      FREE PREVIEW

    4. Housekeeping: How To Navigate This Program

    5. DOWNLOAD NOW: Track Program Progress Here

    1. Welcome To Dilato And The Biopsychosocial Model

      FREE PREVIEW

    2. Key Truths About Pain

      FREE PREVIEW

    3. Homework: Watch Youtube Video "Understanding Pain In Less Than 5 minutes"

    4. Pain Truth Quiz

      FREE PREVIEW

    5. Example: Identify Your Threats Worksheet

    6. Your Turn: Identify Your Threats Worksheet

    7. Example: Setting Goals Worksheet

    8. Your Turn: Setting Goals Worksheet

    9. The Biopsychosocial Model And Common Pelvic Pain Conditions

    10. Painful Sex During Pregnancy And/Or Postpartum

    11. Current Research Surrounding Pelvic Pain: And the Link to Depression/Anxiety, Oral Contraceptives and Sleep Hygiene

    12. Assess Your Sleep Quality Quiz

    13. Your Turn: Sleep Hygiene Checklist + Creating Good Sleep Habits

    14. Describing Your Symptoms To Doctors

    15. CHECK-POINT (1): Let's Track Where You Are Now In Your Journey

    1. The Fear-Tension-Pain Cycle

    2. Evaluating How Fear Shows Up In Your Body

    3. Tools To Help Manage Your Fear of Penetration

    4. What is Diaphragmatic Breathing? Let's Practice Together!

    5. Reaffirmation Of Self

    6. Having Hard Conversations: How To Bring Up Painful Sex

    7. Your Turn: Having Hard Conversations Around Painful Sex Worksheet

    8. Techniques For Self-Compassion

    9. Your Turn: Techniques For Self Compassion Worksheet

    10. How To Communicate Desires To Partner And Safe Words

    11. Your Turn: Sexy Wish List

    12. Psychotherapist's Perspective: Self-Esteem, Identity, and Painful Sex

    13. Psychotherapist's Perspective: Techniques To Boost Self-Esteem

    14. CHECK-POINT (2): Let's Track Where You Are Now In Your Journey

    1. How To Improve Intimacy And Pleasure With Your Partner Without Penetrative Sex

    2. Your Turn: Put Pleasure To Practice

    3. What is the Vulva?

    4. What Is Outercourse?

    5. Types Of Outercourse

    6. CHECK-POINT (3): Let's Track Where You Are Now In Your Journey

    1. Where Is My Pelvic Floor And What Does It Do?

    2. 5 Common Myths About The Pelvic Floor

    3. Hyperactive vs. Hypoactive Pelvic Floor

    4. The Layers Of My Pelvic Floor

    5. What Is Pelvic Floor Physiotherapy?

    6. How to Workout Without Increasing Pelvic Tension

    7. The Pelvic Floor and Sexual Arousal

    8. CHECK-POINT (4): Let's Track Where You Are Now In Your Journey

    1. Guided Body Scan And Breath Work

    2. 3 Everyday Breath Work Techniques To Reduce Pelvic Tension And Regulate Nervous System

    3. Diaphragmatic Breathing And Positions To Improve Circulation And Promote Relaxation In The Pelvic Floor

    4. Yoga Stretches to Relive Pelvic Floor Tension

    5. Download and Try: Yoga Stretches to Relieve Pelvic Floor Tension

    6. Pelvis Mobility + Stretches on the Ball Exercises To Reduce Pelvic Floor Tension

    7. Download and Try: Pelvis Mobility + Stretches on the Ball Exercises To Reduce Pelvic Floor Tension

    8. Self Myofascial Release And Massage To Relieve Pelvic Floor Tension

    9. Download and Try: Self Myofascial Release to Relieve Pelvic Floor Tension

    10. Foam Roll Techniques To Relieve Pelvic Floor Tension

    11. Download and Try: Foam Roll Techniques to Relieve Pelvic Floor Tension

    12. CHECK-POINT (5): Let's Track Where You Are Now In Your Journey

    13. Importance Of Using Lubricant When Doing Any Release Work Down There

    14. Exploring Your Vulva

    15. How To Release Pelvic Floor Trigger Points with Your Finger (BEFORE DILATOR USE)

    16. Download and Try: Explore your Vulva/ Genitals and Finger Clock Trigger Point Release

    17. How Your Partner Can Support You in Your Journey to Painfree Sex

    18. Download and Try: How your Partner Can Support You in Your Journey to Pain-Free Sex

About this course

  • 94 lessons
  • Group Video Calls with Health Experts
  • Live Community
  • Results in less than 16 weeks

Hear From A Dilato Participant

Tess, Community Member with Vaginismus

Let's heal your nervous system.

Experience a shift from pain to pleasure. Start your healing journey today with a holistic community approach and digital therapy tools!

FAQ

  • When does the program start?

    Join the course right now! We're always accepting new people into the community. You will receive an email reminder one week before the program begins. If you have any questions, reach out to [email protected]

  • Is this medical advice?

    This program is not medical advice. All experts in the program do not represent as a licensed medical professional or qualified healthcare provider. It is not intended as a treatment. Please see a licensed therapist and/or pelvic floor therapist for medical advice or any questions before undertaking a new health care regimen. All advice given in chat, course material and calls is not medical advice and is based on lived patient-led experience.

  • Can this be covered under my insurance?

    No, this is an online coaching program.

  • Do you have refunds or exchange?

    No refunds are available. All purchases are final.

  • What if I don't own dilators yet?

    That’s okay! Many community members join before they even own dilators. The insertion tips can be practiced without dilators. Plus, we suggest not to start any type of internal work (ex. dilator insertion, finger insertion etc.) until external work is first attempted. We will guide you through external practices in the program! If you are ready to invest, the guide provides research and recommendations on how to buy your first dilator and which type is best for you!